Someone else being extraordinary doesn’t make you less so. There’s room enough for all our particular ways of being extraordinary.-Shauna Niequist
There is a monster inside of all of us.
A monster that tells you that you aren’t good enough.
A monster that nags at you to be something…. else.
A monster that screams that your life would be better IF ___________________.
A monster that wants to RIP.YOU.APART.
Dear Comparison Monster-
You are a nasty, hurtful, menacing beast, and I.don’t.like.you.
You rip me to shreds focusing on what others have all the while making me feel impossibly inferior and incredibly lacking.
I’m tired of this game you’ve got me playing. I have to kick you to the curb because- well, you are ruining me.
Can you relate to this?
Ladies, I want you to take a moment today and examine how the comparison monster is affecting you. If you are anything like me, chances are it is wreaking HAVOC on your mind. The monster is stealing our time. All the time we spend judging ourselves against this invisible and impossible ruler is time being stolen from us-taking away from our chance to do things that really matter. The monster is stealing our joy. How can we possibly be joyful if we are so focused on what we DON’T have? The monster is stealing our gratitude. Here comes the [ouch]:Comparison is covetousness. Our hearts become hardened and calloused when we covet. So basically, we are drowning ourselves in an ocean of discontent while the people we envy are sitting pretty on the beach. Sweet.
SO. This is what I have to say to ma-self all the day long: I have to STOP the CRAZY [Cay-cray if I was cool enough]. You aren’t alone- Do you remember Eve? You know, the famous first woman ever created Eve? Eve wanted what the Serpent was offering her . That apple was the thing she wanted because it wasn’t hers- and she managed to believe the lie that she wasn’t complete until she had that THING. Hold on- did you catch that? Eve felt incomplete because she didn’t have what Satan had. Yikes. Don’t be that girl. Don’t tell yourself that something you DON’T have will “fix” you or make you better. Run from that lie, daughter of the King. Don’t be a slave to your thoughts.
Sometimes, I need to repeat this speech to myself: Who I am CURRENTLY matters to God. Who I am NOW is a glorious work in progress. Who I am cannot be who anyone else is. God didn’t (and doesn’t) make mistakes. There is enough extraordinary to go around.
Bringing it on home: He made you just the way you are. You would be unnecessary if you were a carbon-copy of someone else. You can be free of this cycle, but you need to replace these monster thoughts with holy ones- ones directly out of Scripture.
When you start to feel the monster striking an attack, try these on:
- Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.-Romans 12:2
- Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9
- For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? Matthew 16:26
- “For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” Galatians 5:1
You are dearly loved.